When Did You Last Invest In Self Care?

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If someone asked you what your definition of self care is, what would you answer?

Is self care about being aware of illness and ailments, regularly getting your nails done and your hair cut and using sun screen? Or does self care have a deeper meaning to you?

Unfortunately many people struggle to understand what self care is really all about. Beyond doing the necessary to keep them selves functioning, they make little investment in proactive and ongoing self care. Often it’s only once they become stressed, ill or overwhelmed that they are then forced into taking self care measures.

But self care should be a daily deposit into your bank of well being.

It’s not something you can do sporadically and expect to feel ‘reset’ for the next 6 months. It needs to be a practice that you continually make an effort towards because, without a regular dose of self care, you end up shortchanging yourself, and everyone else in your life too.

As hard as you try, you can’t keep giving to the world if you’re not putting essential time and caring back into yourself.

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It’s Not All About You (And That’s Good)

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My husband and I recently experienced the loss of our 2nd baby. We have been trying to grow our family for nearly 2 years now, and have sadly lost both of the only pregnancies that we have managed to create.

It has been an extremely heartbreaking, and stressful time. There have been a few moments when I have totally lost myself in the grief, anger and heartache over the loss of 2 children we wanted so desperately, but I have always known that with my husband by my side, I would be ok.

He has been amazing and, particularly with our 2nd loss, tried so hard to be strong, to get me through those first days. I wanted to be strong too, to show him he was carrying me through, so I did my best to keep my grief inside.

But there came a time, when I couldn’t hold it in any longer. Rather than come straight out and say how I felt though, I started bitching and moaning about various unimportant household tasks that hadn’t been done, and how my husband was too busy to help me, and that I had work to do too!!!

I can honestly say that I wasn’t a particularly nice person in that moment and he had every right to be mad at me for the way I was acting. I was in attack mode and it would have been so easy for my sweet man to retaliate as the innocent victim of a crazy lady.

But he did something that I absolutely love him for.

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7 Ways To Spring Clean Your Relationship

Spring is here. Well for the Southern Hemisphere at least.

The blossoms are bursting into colour, the bulbs are popping their heads up out of the soil and it seems like every day there is a new batch of baby lambs to ooo and ahhhh over (maybe that’s just me).

It’s that time of year when we’re all meant to dig into the Spring cleaning, throwing out the surplus, cleaning off all the Winter dust, and making everything fresh for Summer.

I’m not sure how many people actually do Spring Clean, in Spring, but whenever you do it, it’s always such a great feeling.

Seeing clear cupboards and surfaces and feeling a sense of space and freshness is so refreshing and uplifting. It just has a way of making everything seem clearer.

Imagine if you could do that in your relationships?

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10 Reasons You Should Work With A Relationship Coach

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Maybe you’ve been battling away, hoping things will get better in your relationship. Or maybe you’ve already acknowledged that you need help to work things out and considered marriage counselling, but it just doesn’t feel like the right fit for you.

If either of those scenarios applies then Relationship Coaching could be your answer.

Relationship Coaching is a powerful, supportive and empowering tool for creating the quality and depth of love in your relationship that you most desire.

Here are 10 reasons why you should work with a Relationship Coach:

1. YOU DIDN’T GET A COPY OF ‘THE PERFECT RELATIONSHIP’ MANUAL

While making connections and developing relationships comes naturally to most of us, there isn’t a step by step instruction manual to follow so we know exactly how to keep our most intimate relationships running smoothly, remaining positive, loving and fulfilling.

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“We’re not completely unhappy” and other half baked statements about your relationship

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Are you settling?

Have you given yourself over to having a sub standard kind of love?

Do you think you should just be more grateful for what you have and not expect more?

Then I am here to tell you you’ve got it wrong.

Being ‘not completely unhappy’ is as good saying you are unhappy most of the time.

When did that become acceptable?

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