10 Sure Ways To Self Love

Self Love Coaching

You can search throughout the entire universe for someone who is more deserving of your love and affection than you are yourself, and that person is not to be found anywhere. You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe deserve your love and affection – Buddha

When most of us think about love, we think about the love we feel for others, give to others, and receive from those who love us. We don’t tend to think too much about love for ourselves. In fact, for many, the notion of loving oneself can seem conceited and unattractive.

And yet self love is the foundation of a good life and the generation point where love for others begins and ends.

Without loving yourself, you can never really truly love another. My mother told me so when I was young, but it took me until I was 33 to discover she was right.

So how do you grow your inner resource of self love?

Start with these 10 simple ways, and you’ll be on the sure path to discovering just how great self loving can feel.

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Are You A Creator Or A Reactor In Love

Relationship Coaching

If I’d saved a dollar for every time I’ve heard ‘I just wish he/she would show me they love me more’, I would be a very happy coach with a big box load of ALL the really expensive books I’ve been eyeing up on Amazon, being delivered to my door.

For any number of reasons, a lot of couples end up in a place where things have gone a little (or a lot) off course and one or both partners are feeling less love than they desire.

Unfortunately it’s not uncommon, at all.

While not all couples talk about it, most have felt it at some point in their relationship.

It’s also not uncommon for the blame for the lack of loving to be put on the other partner.

When you feel unloved, when the passion has dwindled and things have become a little mundane, surely it can’t be your fault?

Because after all, you actually want more love.

But there’s a difference between wanting it, and going out and getting it.

That difference determines whether you are a love reactor, or a love creator.

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What Lesson Is Being Mirrored Back To You?

 

I strongly believe that it is in our relationships that we learn the most about ourselves.

Particularly in our relationships with our spouses/partners/boyfriends/girlfriends, but also with our children.

When we live with and love someone every day it’s inevitable we will come up against things that push a button or hit a nerve. Even the most placid and easy going person will have something that irks them that little bit, but in the most part we all just get on with it. Normally the majority of what annoys us, isn’t worth getting too pent up about or is forgotten in the next moment.

But what if the same things keep coming back up, causing constant issues in your relationship?

Unfortunately too many relationships are plagued by problems that persist, and try as they might to resolve their differences they bubbling up, contaminating the love shared between two people and threatening the future of the relationship.

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Codependency | Too Nice For Your Own Good?

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Codependency is a term often used in relation to the partner or spouse of an abuser or addict. There is reasoning that to stay and tolerate the destructive behaviours and actions of these types of partners, that codependency must be present.

But this isn’t always the case. Codependency can also be present in relationships that appear normal but have a dysfunctional imbalance, with one partner unknowingly engaging in codependent behaviours out of insecurity about themselves, and the relationship.

So what is codependency?

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