How Spontaneity Could Be Ruining Your Sex Life

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50 Shades Of Grey is guilty of it. Mills and Boon is guilty. Every romance movie you’ve ever watched is guilty of doing it.

Guilty of doing what?

Guilty of helping you to nurture unrealistic ideals and expectations about what love and sex in the average relationship is really all about.

We all know how it goes in Hollywood, in a scripted novel. A gorgeous couple randomly and passionately fall into bed, with just a few glances, all the right words and without a single thought of whatever else is going on the world.

In the grips of passion they mold their perfect bodies perfectly together for the most amazing, mind blowing, orgasmic sex two people could ever hope for.

Every hair is in place, nothing flops or jiggles about, every kiss and caress is delivered with pleasure and received with absolute desire. Every breath and movement is totally in sync.

Which is exactly how it should go in real life as well, right?

If only that were true.

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Shared Love: The Look Of Love

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I received my wedding photos today.

My husband and I actually got married nearly 2 years ago but, well, we were a little slow on picking the best photos and actually putting the order in.

But they’re here now and I am so excited looking at them, seeing how well they turned out and thinking about the frames we will buy and where we will hang them.

But there is also something else in looking at these photos that is even more exciting.

I gaze at these beautiful pictures of us, and I see love.

So much love.

Love that is so obvious, even on a printed page.

Love that shows in our faces, the way we are standing or sitting, the way our bodies seem to be tied together.

It’s so incredible to see, and to feel, and such a wonderful relief because I was worried about receiving these photos.


Well let me explain.

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