It’s Not All About You (And That’s Good)

not taking things personally

My husband and I recently experienced the loss of our 2nd baby. We have been trying to grow our family for nearly 2 years now, and have sadly lost both of the only pregnancies that we have managed to create.

It has been an extremely heartbreaking, and stressful time. There have been a few moments when I have totally lost myself in the grief, anger and heartache over the loss of 2 children we wanted so desperately, but I have always known that with my husband by my side, I would be ok.

He has been amazing and, particularly with our 2nd loss, tried so hard to be strong, to get me through those first days. I wanted to be strong too, to show him he was carrying me through, so I did my best to keep my grief inside.

But there came a time, when I couldn’t hold it in any longer. Rather than come straight out and say how I felt though, I started bitching and moaning about various unimportant household tasks that hadn’t been done, and how my husband was too busy to help me, and that I had work to do too!!!

I can honestly say that I wasn’t a particularly nice person in that moment and he had every right to be mad at me for the way I was acting. I was in attack mode and it would have been so easy for my sweet man to retaliate as the innocent victim of a crazy lady.

But he did something that I absolutely love him for.

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10 Sure Ways To Self Love

Self Love Coaching

You can search throughout the entire universe for someone who is more deserving of your love and affection than you are yourself, and that person is not to be found anywhere. You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe deserve your love and affection – Buddha

When most of us think about love, we think about the love we feel for others, give to others, and receive from those who love us. We don’t tend to think too much about love for ourselves. In fact, for many, the notion of loving oneself can seem conceited and unattractive.

And yet self love is the foundation of a good life and the generation point where love for others begins and ends.

Without loving yourself, you can never really truly love another. My mother told me so when I was young, but it took me until I was 33 to discover she was right.

So how do you grow your inner resource of self love?

Start with these 10 simple ways, and you’ll be on the sure path to discovering just how great self loving can feel.

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