Stop Chasing Perfection

chasing perfection

We use perfectionism to excuse insecurity, to cover up fear and allow for playing small.

We use perfectionism in a bid to ward off failure, to protect ourselves from judgement, to keep us on course for achieving the standard ‘they’ expect.

We use it to hold back disappointment and hang onto belief, belief that you can do, say and be everything exactly as you need to.

To be accepted, praised, recognised, validated, approved of.

We keep striving for the ultimate achievement, for the perfect accomplishment.

But when we get to perfect will we know we have reached our destination?

Is there a gatekeeper who will recognise our perfection and tell us we have arrived, that we have achieved that which we have spent so much time, effort and mental energy on trying to create?

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Valentine’s Day – A Day For Love Or Letdown?

Sex Coaching

Valentines Day is here!!

The day of lovers when romantic gestures are keenly expected by those cherished by another and by those who hope to be.

The day when millions of dollars are spent on gifts, flowers, wine, food and cards as lovers everywhere endeavour to demonstrate the depth of their love.

The day when wives and girlfriends track every bunch of flowers delivered to the office, hopeful that they are the lucky recipient this time.

The day when husbands and boyfriends muddle their minds trying to think of the right gift, or default to the stock standard promoted by every florist, card shop or chocolate maker.

I’m personally pretty neutral on Valentines Day and my husband and I don’t hold the day with too much importance.

For us it isn’t necessary to mark a certain day to know that we love and adore each other deeply. Every day is the perfect day to let each other know.

But for some, Valentine’s Day does hold a special importance and there is much anticipation over what treats their partner has in store.

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