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There’s A Reason For My Absence
It’s been a while since I posted here last. Nearly 13 weeks in fact.
But I have what I think is a pretty good excuse.
I’d like you to meet my precious little Poppy
Our little girl was born exactly 12 weeks ago today and she has been my absolute focus since her arrival.
It took us a long time to get (and stay) pregnant with Poppy. She also had a pretty scary journey during delivery and we’ve been taking our time over the last 10 weeks to just enjoy getting to know each other, as well as make sure she has everything she needs to get the best start and grow strong and healthy after her rocky start.
It’s been 12 crazy weeks. Anyone that has had children will know the chaos that is life with a newborn.
We so desperately wanted our little girl (or boy if it had gone that way) but there is absolutely no preparing for the total upheaval that occurs when you have a little person so completely dependent on you.
It can be exhausting, confusing and at times overwhelming.
Foolishly I thought that I had had a wee pre-taster of having a baby given that I’ve been with my step-son since he was about 11 months old. But I was SO wrong. I never had to breastfeed him, or go through the early stages of trying to work out what he needed with no idea. I didn’t deal with the early growth spurts or the fussy days after vaccinations. I definitely went through the sleep deprivation with him though, as he didn’t really start sleeping through the night until he was 5 years old, but with 3 plus years of regular sleep I had forgotten how debilitating it can be when you’re getting up all night.
We also only have my step son week about so no matter how bad the week was, we always got ‘a week off’ to recover.
Not an option now (and to be honest I wouldn’t want it to be).
I’m pleased to say though that we are coming through the fog and have started to get a bit of a groove going on with our new addition.
And with a little more sleep under my belt, and a better idea of how to get through each day with this tiny person, I’m slowly dipping my toe back into the water with my business.
I’ve resumed coaching with just a selected group of clients (if you want to join that list then contact me to see if I have any spaces left) and have been busy brainstorming a whole heap of new articles, and working on my new product that is coming out next year.
It feels good to spend some time with my other baby (my business), and to remember what I loved to do most before I was a Mum.
I still love what I do. Now I just have to juggle it with my absolute true love, my family.
I read somewhere that as a mum running a business your business tends to grow as your children do. It takes patience and acceptance to allow that to happen, rather than wanting it all while you’re trying to DO it all. I still have some work to do on my patience because I have so many great things I want to share with you and I’m excited to get them out there, but I’m also accepting that it’s all about baby steps (literally and figuratively) right now.
So it may be a week or two before I post my next article, but when I do I’ll be talking about how having children can affect your relationship, and how to protect against the problems that can come up when your whole life gets flipped upside down.
There’s no doubting that, no matter how strong your relationship is, things get kind of crazy and can get quite off track when you’re in survival mode with a newborn.
It’s well recognised that in the first 3 months of your new baby’s life, you’re going to go through the biggest changes and probably the biggest emotional ups and downs you’ve ever felt. It’s not surprising the impact that has on not only you as people, but also as a couple as emotions, exhaustion and overwhelm spill over.
I can help you with navigating the course of this change though.
Even if you’ve already been through it, but come out the other side dented and down beat about your relationship, I can give you some advice to hopefully get your relationship back on track.
Our relationship with our partner is just as important as our role as parents. By loving the mother or father of our child well, we teach our children to love well. What we demonstrate as a loving relationship in the home while our children are growing, is what they will expect as adults.
So, if you’re not already signed up for all my latest updates then I encourage you to do so in the opt in box to the right so that you can receive all my articles directly in your inbox.
And now, I better switch back into Mum mode and go drown my little girl in more kisses and cuddles.
I always tell my clients that they deserve the most incredible love in their lives, and I have to say that the love I feel for my little girl completely confirms for me that LOVE is the best feeling EVER and we all need the best version of it in our lives.
Have you got yours? Or do you need help finding it?
As always, let me know if I can help.